There’s only one step: pull out your penis and ejaculate away from the vagina. But it’s important to pull out in time, all the time, or it won’t work as well.
How do I use the pull out method?
Your penis has to be all the way out of your partner’s vagina before you ejaculate, and then you have to ejaculate (cum) away from your partner’s vulva and vagina. This sounds like no big deal, but it can actually be difficult lots of the time.
Withdrawal also takes a lot of self-control — you have to be willing and able to stop having sex before ejaculating (cumming). So in order to use the pull out method correctly, you must know exactly when semen is going to come out of your penis — and you have to be able to pull your penis out of the vagina before it happens.
It’s important to understand your body and your sexual responses really well, so you can feel when you reach the point of ejaculation. This can be a big challenge, especially for people who are young or not sexually experienced.
If you’re new to withdrawal, masturbation can help you learn how to recognize when you’re about to ejaculate. You can also use condoms along with withdrawal, to get used to pulling out without risking pregnancy.
It takes practice to use the withdrawal method perfectly. There’s no room for error: if semen gets in the vagina or on the vulva, pregnancy can happen. If you’re going to use the pull out method, you may want to keep emergency contraception (aka the morning-after pill) around, just in case there’s a slipup.