If my boyfriend and I use a male condom, spermicide, and withdrawal, what are my chances of getting pregnant? I am so worried of getting pregnant that I don’t want to have sex.
If you’re using a condom with spermicide and your boyfriend is pulling out before he ejaculates — known as withdrawal or the pull-out method — then the chance of getting pregnant is really, really unlikely.
Even though spermicide and the pull-out method aren’t the most effective forms of birth control by themselves, they are great ways to “backup” a condom. If you’re going to have penis-in-vagina sex and you don’t want to get pregnant, using a condom with another kind of birth control is a really smart idea — you can lower your chances of spreading STDs as well as pregnancy. Figuring out what method(s) are right for you can take some thought and trial and error — take this quiz to help you figure out which birth control method may be right for you .
Sex shouldn’t make you feel stressed out or worried — it should be enjoyable! Having sex does come with some risk, just like most things in life. But if your anxiety about pregnancy makes you feel more comfortable NOT having vaginal sex, that’s totally OK and your partner should respect that. (It’s okay to decide this even if you’ve already had sex!)
You might decide that you would prefer to have other kinds of sex or sexual activity instead — things that don’t have the same risk of pregnancy.