Why don’t i get an erection? When i masturbate at home, i do not have problems with my erection, but when i am with my girlfriend (and past partners) i have trouble maintaining an erection. It’s really bothering me, it has happened at least 10 times, and it really bothers me. I’ve tried relaxing around her, but nothing helps at all. I can’t talk to my parents about it and i feel so alone, what do i do?
Erections are about being relaxed and being turned on. Many men experience difficulty achieving and/or maintaining the relaxation they need to get and stay erect. For most men it only happens sometimes. For others it happens quite often.
Losing an erection or being unable to become erect often results from nerves, anxiety, or using alcohol or other drugs. Sometimes men worry about performance, and sometimes they’re anxious about whether or not having intercourse is the right decision, or whether they’re with the right partner.
And some guys become anxious and self-conscious when they’re putting on condoms, especially if all of these other things are going on. Becoming aware of all of these possibilities can help a guy to make the choices he needs to make to be relaxed and turned on enough to have an erection.
Sometimes, direct stimulation of the penis during foreplay can solve the problem.