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My vagina is too tight for my boyfriend to put his penis in. I’m a virgin and I don’t have a problem with lubrication. Is this normal?

Yes, this is normal. Some people experience pain and tightness when they try to have vaginal sex for the first time.

It's possible that the opening in your hymen is very small. The hymen is a thin, fleshy tissue that stretches across part of the opening of your vagina. Most hymens have at least one hole to let menstrual blood out of your body. Some people may have more hymenal tissue than others, and stretching it open during your first time having vaginal sex may cause pain or bleeding. If you’re worried about feeling discomfort or pain the first time you have sex, you can prepare by slowly stretching your hymen with your fingers.

It's also possible that you're dealing with vaginismus, which can cause soreness in your vulva and vagina and make penetration painful.

Try not to stress out — issues with the vagina are very common. If this keeps being a problem for you or you can't comfortably have sex when you want to, talk with a doctor or nurse about it, like the ones at your local Planned Parenthood health center. They can help you figure out what’s going on and what you can do about it. 

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