How do I cope with infertility? 

Having trouble getting or staying pregnant can be devastating and frustrating for people who want to have a baby.  

The first thing to remember is that infertility is common. In fact, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about 1 in 5 women in the U.S. between the ages of 15-49 with no prior births, are unable to get pregnant after one year of trying.  

Caring for your emotional health throughout the process of trying to get pregnant is just as important as staying physically healthy, but it’s easier said than done. One of the hardest parts of infertility is dealing with the emotional ups and downs.  

Here are tips from our Mental Health Program Director and our Basic Infertility Care Director on what you can do to cope with the stress of infertility. Remember: you are not alone. 

Try to keep your stress level down by setting time aside for healthy activities that are enjoyable and relaxing, like meditation, reading, exercising, or taking walks.  

Leaning on friends, family, partners, therapists, and support groups can also be helpful when you’re struggling with infertility. 

Talking about your feelings and experiences can help you process your emotions and ease your mind. Online and in-person communities that focus on fertility struggles are good places to meet people who understand what you’re going through and can offer advice and encouragement.

You can find more information on coping with infertility at RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association. 

If infertility has you feeling stressed, anxious, or depressed, you’re not alone. Counselors and therapists can also be sources of help.