Having “the sex talk” with your parents may be the last thing you want to do. How do you broach the topic? Should you? And how will they react? However, you are probably not the only one experiencing these feelings. Your parents may be just as nervous as you are!
At PPHP, we recognize the value of parents as resources. Because your parents care about you and have had their own sexual experiences, they may be able to provide you with helpful advice, information, or support regarding your sexual health and sexual decisions.
Below, we have listed some tips on how and when to start a conversation with your parents about sex.
- Brainstorm- Before talking to your parents, it is important to determine whether you want to speak to them generally or specifically about sex. Regardless of whether you are hoping to better understand your parents’ views on sex or are seeking concrete advice, we encourage you to reflect on what it is you wish to discuss with your parents and how to frame this discussion.
- Time and Place-Timing and location for the “sex talk” are contingent on whether you wish to converse in person or through an email, a phone call, or a text message. All of these methods are acceptable because they involve communication. If you want to speak with your parents directly, you can try talking to them at a time in which you have their undivided attention. Many teenagers find that having these conversations at home is beneficial. The timing and location for emails, phone calls, and text messages are not as crucial.
- Breaking the Ice- You can acknowledge that you are not entirely sure how to have the “sex talk,” by saying, “This feels weird for me to talk about, but…” or “This isn’t the easiest thing for me to ask…” Some teenagers prefer to preface these statements and ask their parents in advance, “Can we have a private talk later?” Other teenagers use magazine articles, TV shows, or movies, as an opportunity to transition to conversations about sex. Any of these approaches can help to start the “sex talk.”
Although we encourage teenagers to talk to their parents about sex, we understand that some of you may be too concerned or uncomfortable to have this conversation for a variety of reasons. You can always come to PPHP to if you have any questions or concerns.
To schedule an appointment at PPHP, you can call 800-230-PLAN (7526). You also can request an appointment online.