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My bf has a problem with me masturbating and he says that if I really want to orgasm, we should have sex, but we’ve only been going out for a couple of weeks and I’m not ready to do it w/ him. I’ve tried talking to him but he just seems to want sex. Please help! 🙁

You might want to talk to your boyfriend and ask him why this bothers him. Most people masturbate, and, on average, people who have regular sex partners actually masturbate more often than people who don’t have regular sex partners.

People shouldn’t have any kind of sex that they’re not comfortable with, and sex partners should never use pressure to get consent. Having sex is a big decision, and there are many things to think about, including

  • your personal values and goals
  • your feelings about the kinds of emotional and physical risks you’re willing to take
  • whether you’re feeling pressured
  • how clear you can be with your partner about what you do and don’t want to happen
  • what you want out of your relationship

Pressure to have sex can be a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

Tags: sex, relationships, masturbation