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It's been 3 years since I started having sex. Why am I continuing to feel pain?

Dec. 22, 2020 min read

By Attia @ Planned Parenthood

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Someone asked us:
It's been 3 years since I started having sex and I'm still feeling pain during sex. I don't enjoy sex and sometimes it feels like the dick is going to my rectum even though it's vagina penetration. Please what should I do. I don't have any sex drive or enjoy penetration. Thanks

Sex isn’t supposed to be painful. Painful sex can sometimes be caused by not having enough natural lubrication. Vaginal dryness is caused by many things, like hormones, genital arousal disorder, or not enough foreplay. Drug stores sell water and silicone-based lube (like Astroglide or KY), which can reduce that friction and make sex feel a whole lot better.

Since you’ve been having painful sex for three years, it’s a good idea to check in with a doctor or nurse like the staff at your local Planned Parenthood health center. They can help you find the cause of your pain, and help figure out ways to make sex more comfortable for you.

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