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hi i need to know if its bad to b 12 yearsold and know that im a lesbian i have a 13yearold girlfriend

There’s nothing bad or wrong about knowing you’re a lesbian at any age.

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and straight are sexual orientations. Our sexual orientation is about who we’re attracted to sexually. A woman who is sexually attracted to other women often calls herself a lesbian. A man who is sexually attracted to other men often calls himself gay. People who are attracted to both women and men often called themselves bisexual. And people who are attracted to people of the other sex often call themselves straight.

Why do we say “often”? Because some people don’t think these labels describe them accurately. Some people don’t like the idea of labels at all.

All these sexual orientations are perfectly normal. Scientists are not yet sure exactly what causes someone to be lesbian, gay, bisexual, or straight, but recent research shows that there are biological factors in place before birth that influence people’s sexual orientation. Many people know their sexual orientation when they are still children. It takes a lifetime for many others to understand theirs. Either way is OK.

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