How do I tell my partner that I have an STD?
Even though a lot of people have sexually transmitted infections, talking about them can be tough. Here are some tips to help start this conversation:
Practice having the discussion without your partner and say the words out loud. What do you want to say? What are all the possible things your partner could say?
Try to have this talk when you both have time and privacy.
Remember that your partner cannot read your thoughts. It’s important to talk about what you want and how you feel. It’s important to listen to your partner, too.
If you’re feeling nervous or embarrassed, tell your partner. Maybe your partner feels the same way you do. Sometimes sex is hard to talk about, and it’s okay to admit that.
Ask how your partner feels about this conversation. Being honest with each other can make a relationship more fulfilling.
If it’s an ordinary bacterial infection like chlamydia, gonorrhea, or syphilis, make sure your partner gets tested and treated, too.
If it is a virus that needs to be managed in the future, such as herpes or HIV, talk with your partner about how you both can agree to do that.