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how do i convince my boyfriend to have sex with me? i think the only reason he doesn't want to is because he thinks i'm not ready, but i definitely am.  please don't try to talk me out of it. And don't worry, we'll use protection.


It’s never a good idea to try to convince someone to have sex with you. The only time it’s okay to have sex is when both people are ready and want to do it, and they both say so. That idea is called consent.

It may seem to you that your boyfriend is holding out because he thinks you’re not ready, but the only way you can know for sure is by talking with him about it. If you say you’re ready and he still doesn’t want to, don’t try to pressure him into doing anything. He might tell you some reasons he feels that way, or he may not. Either way, everyone needs to decide for themselves when they’re ready.

If you guys talk and figure out that you’re both ready and want to have sex, using protection is definitely the way to go.  It’s a good idea to get started on an ongoing  birth control method before you have sex. A really effective method of birth control (like the IUD, implant, or pill) PLUS a condom will best protect you from pregnancy and STDs. This quiz can help you find the best kind of birth control for you.

-Emily at Planned Parenthood

Tags: sex, consent