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My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months and it seems like lately all he wants to do is hook up… Im not always in the mood and then he gets really frustrated when we dont… When I try to talk to him about it he turns it around like Im the one in the wrong because hooking up is just a part of the relationship and Im being stupid for not always wanting to… what do i do??

People have different levels of sex drive. Some people would be happy to have sex every day, and some people would be happy to have sex once a month or even less often. And there are also some people who don’t want to have sex at all. Many things can affect our sex drives. This can include stress, certain prescription medications, how comfortable we are with our partners, past sexual experiences, if we feel safe, how deeply we are attracted to the person, and many other factors in our lives.

If your relationship is lacking in hands-off quality time, communicate with your boyfriend about how you’d like things to change. Talk with your boyfriend about what he wants out of the relationship. If your boyfriend is just looking for a hook-up buddy and that’s not what’s on your mind, then maybe it’s time to call it quits.

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