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Is not being a virgin a bad thing?

Nope! And being a virgin — someone who hasn’t had sex — isn’t a bad thing, either!

Something that actually can be a bad thing, though, is having sex before you’re ready. Sex can have big physical and emotional consequences, so having sex, especially for the first time, is a big decision. Sometimes — and especially in high school — it can feel like everybody around you is having sex. But the facts about sex might surprise you. The average age people start having sex is 17. About seven in 10 people have had sex by age 19.

Different people have lots of different ideas about what being a “virgin” means. Most people would say that a virgin is someone who’s never had sex, but “sex” might mean vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex, all of the above, or something else.

Learn more about figuring out when you’re ready for sex.

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