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Someone asked us: My boyfriend likes to use anal toys. Should I be worried?

Feeling sexual pleasure by stimulating different parts of your body is normal and healthy. So good for your boyfriend!

But if you’re wondering if it’s “normal” for a straight man to like having his anus stimulated, know that we get questions like this all the time: “If I like anal sex, does that mean I’m gay?” “I love sex with women and also using dildos in my anus. Does this make me gay?” “If I try anal sex, will I become gay?”

Here are the facts: Many people of different genders and sexual orientations enjoy anal sex. Putting sex toys or fingers into your anus does not mean you’re gay. Feeling sexual pleasure in your anus does not make you gay. It only means that you enjoy stimulating that part of your body. 

Giving yourself permission to enjoy your body is a good thing. And exploring what you like and don’t like with your partner can strengthen your relationship, make you enjoy sex more, and increase trust.

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