Dear fontsize6,

Try explaining that you don't feel comfortable enough. Try to talk about it during a quiet time when sex play isn't going on. If he cares about you, he should respect your needs about this.

It can be difficult to communicate about differences in expectations about sex. But when it comes to relationships, everyone has the right to set boundaries and have those boundaries respected. If you don't feel comfortable engaging in oral sex with your boyfriend, you shouldn't be pressured into it.

No one should feel pressured into doing something sexually that they don't want to do. Partners should be clear with each other about what they do and don't want to do, and they need to respect each others' boundaries.

Bottom line: if you don't want to have oral sex, don't.