Are You Ready to Have Sex?
So, you think you are ready to have sex, or at least something like it. Here is a checklist to make sure that you have thought about some important things before you make that big decision.
Remember, if you can talk to your parent(s) or a trusted adult about stuff like this, do so before you make any major decisions; they can help guide you.
- Have you and your partner EVER talked about intercourse or other sexual activities such as oral sex? If no, then you need to have that conversation before you go any further. You need to know their personal boundaries, as well as your own, and if both of you are even ready for something like this. If yes, then think about what was said and what type of sexual activity you talked about.
- Are you in a committed relationship?
- Have you thought about what type of condoms to use to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections/diseases?
- Have you thought about what type of birth control you would use?
- Who are you doing this for? If you think this will make your partner love or like you more, then it isn't the time to have sex. If you feel like you are being pushed into having sexual activity, then it isn't right. You should only engage in sexual activities YOU want to, not someone else, or to make someone else like you.
- What do you expect from this? Really spend sometime thinking and talking with your partner about what you expect from this. It is important to remember that your expectations might be higher than what the actual event is really like. Be prepared for that.
Remember, engaging in sexual activity of any kind (oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse) does not make you more of a woman or a man, it will not make someone like you any more than they really do, and it will not make you feel better about yourself if you are self-conscious.
You should engage in sexual activity ONLY if you want to and have thought about what it means to you.
For other items and questions to think about, please click here.
