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Be An Askable Parent!

At PPNC, we believe that parents are the first and primary sexuality educators of their children. That is why we provide parents with the skills and knowledge they need to become "askable," active and approachable participants in their child's sexuality education.

Unfortunately, many parents feel uncomfortable tackling such difficult subject matter on their own, especially when their children are still young. Some are unable to broach the issue of sex because of their own lack of information, while others feel that addressing such a mature topic will encourage unhealthy behaviors.

The Benefits of Parental Involvement

We know that addressing the issues of sex and sexuality presents parents with the opportunity to first talk about more comfortable issues such as love, self-esteem and responsibility. Then, as children grow, they can eventually discuss more complex topics such as relationships and sexual behavior.

The benefits of such discussions are clear: studies show that adolescents who reported feeling connected to parents and family were more likely than other teens to delay initiating sexual intercourse. In 2003, the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy reported that 88% of surveyed teens stated that it would be easier for them to postpone sexual activity and avoid teen pregnancy if they were able to have open, honest talks with their parents.

Encouraging Open Communication

Unfortunately, while 9 in 10 parents have said that they've talked to their kids about sexuality, only 1 in 10 teens report having conversations with their parents about sex.

It is clear that an open dialogue between young people and their parents can be a true positive influence on children's health and well-being. Parent/child communication helps adolescents have a positive view of sexuality, provides them with information to take care of their sexual health, and helps them acquire skills to make responsible decisions throughout their lives.

However, it is imperative that parents have the knowledge, skills and comfort to open the lines of communication in a thoughtful and positive manner. Parents need to be provided with accurate information, learn how to talk openly and freely rather than lecturing or threatening, be willing to both ask and answer questions, and really listen to their child's concerns and feelings. Equally important, discussions should go beyond "the talk," encompassing topics such as sexual development, reproductive health, interpersonal relationships, affection, intimacy, body image and gender roles.

For more information, please call (516) 750-2650 or email ppnc@ppnc.org. Or you can visit www.parentingresourcenetwork.org/