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Healthy and happy relationships help us feel better about ourselves and our place in the world. Unhealthy relationships can make us feel unhappy and unsafe.
If something doesn’t feel right in your relationship or the relationship of someone you know, you’re not alone and we’re here to help. The truth is many people find themselves in hurtful, unsafe, or violent relationships at some point. In fact, one in four women and one in seven men report physical violence at some point in their lives. And physical violence is only one type of abuse — many people experience types of abuse, as well. Anyone can find themselves in an unhealthy relationship, no matter their age, gender, or sexual orientation.
If you’re in an unhealthy relationship, always know that you’re not alone and you deserve better. If your partner hurts you physically, emotionally, or sexually, remember: nothing you say or do causes your partner to hurt you. Everyone gets angry sometimes, but when we do, we have choices. We can choose to express ourselves in healthy ways — by talking things through. Or we can be irresponsible and hurt someone else — which is not healthy and not OK.
Here are some resources that may help:
You can contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline for trusted, anonymous online and phone advice. If you want to end an abusive relationship, you can develop a safety plan.
Some women in unhealthy relationships find that their partner tries to control them by messing with their birth control or trying to get them pregnant when they don’t want to be. If you’re worried about this, find out more here or contact your local Planned Parenthood health center for help.
Some of the signs of an unhealthy relationship include
Leaving an unhealthy relationship can be really difficult and take a long time. In fact, it takes an average of seven times before someone leaves an abusive partner for good. So don’t give up on your loved one if she or he is not ready to leave or keeps going back. The best thing you can do is listen, be supportive, and when you get the chance, talk about how much better life could be. Here are more tips about what you can do:
Q&A with Dr. Cullins