Teens, Sex, and Communication

As with most studies, the findings in this one are limited. The study does not show exactly how listening to such music and sexual initiation are related, or if the relationship is a causal one. And it isolates one cultural influence — popular music — without addressing the complex mix of other important influences on sexual development. Nevertheless, the study does point to society's concerns about teen sexuality and the cultural influences that may affect it. And it reminds us all about the importance of open communication between parents and teens about sexuality.

While sexual experimentation is an intrinsic part of adolescent development, sexual activity often poses sexual health risks. Early sexual initiation, in particular, has been associated with higher rates of unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Each year, nearly one million teens become pregnant in the U.S., nearly four million teens contract an STI, and half of all new HIV infections occur among young people.

All humans are sexual from birth until death. But teens are often bombarded by the media with hypersexualized messages about sex and relationships that are unrealistic and sexually unhealthy. It's important that parents — teens' first and most important sexuality educators — help teens navigate the confusing and distorting messages they receive from the media about sex and relationships, by providing messages that are realistic and healthy.

Some parents worry that acknowledging teens' sexual feelings or giving them "too much" information about sex "too soon" will encourage them to become sexually active, but nothing can be further from the truth. Studies have consistently shown that parental communication about sex with their teens actually delays sexual initiation. You can't harm your children by talking openly and honestly about sex and sexuality.

Many parents believe that one "big" talk about sex with their teens is all they need. But communication about sex is most effective when it is continuous. Having a single talk about sex suggests that sexuality is not a fundamental part of life — that talking about it is uncomfortable, inappropriate, or forbidden. In the midst of all the other sexual messages young people get from their environment, the silence can seem dishonest and confusing. Talking about sex is a healthy part of our lifelong relationship with our kids and it can be one of the most powerful legacies we give them.

For more resources on parent-child communication, please see our resources for parents. Resources for teens are available in our Teens section and on teenwire.com, Planned Parenthood's award-winning website for teens.

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